‘I was not prepared to meet my maker’: Man with fatal blood clot in brain defied odds

When he was in better condition, he was transferred to the Bright Vision Hospital rehabilitation center in Hougang. Even then, he was still in bad shape: bedridden, with his head always tilted to one side and drooling all the time.

“My father constantly told me then that since my left limbs didn’t work, to cut them off and throw them away. I went into depression and if it weren’t for my foreign helper Suparmi, who yelled and scolded me, I would have committed suicide,” he said.

“She told me I was selfish and that my family loved and needed me. That’s when I ‘woke up’ from the darkness.”

After that, Mr. Xavier eagerly entered rehab and regained some strength. He also worked on his brain with an occupational therapist, trying to remember things by doing repetitive tasks, doing math and reading.

Five months later, he left the intermediate care institution. She continued to take courses to improve herself and is now certified in neurolinguistic programming, which is a way of changing someone’s thoughts and behaviors to help them achieve desired results.

He even found love at the rehabilitation center: there he met his wife Romelita, who is a senior nurse there. They have a nine-year-old son.

Xavier, now a dealer at one of Singapore’s casinos, hopes his story will inspire others. With the sponsorship of a friend, he has published 1,000 copies of his book.

“I hope that by reading my book, those who are desperate will turn around and find the strength to do something with their lives, with themselves,” he said.